Marriage & Family Life

Our Mission Statement
In response to God’s call to holiness through the vocation of marriage, and prompted by the belief in the sacredness of family as "domestic church," the Office of Family Life seeks to provide our parishes and missions with the opportunities and resources that actively support, strengthen, preserve and enrich the family in light of the Gospel and Church teaching.

Office of Family Life
Deacon Jerry & Mary Besze
903-534-1077, Ext. 165, 166


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For all couples, this web site will provide Catholic teaching, information, skills, inspiration, and resources on living Christian marriage in light of the gospel. (USCCB)

Marriage Preparation


To All Couples preparing for Marriage!


Because your Church celebrates this most important decision of your life. and recognizing that sacramental marriage is a call to holiness.and so you can begin your life with the tools that will help you live out a faithful, permanent, and fruitful commitment.this serious and sacred commitment requires careful consideration and preparation. The Diocese of Tyler has the following guidelines for sacramental marriage.


  1. Contact the priest or deacon who will witness the marriage at least 6 months in advance of the wedding, the sooner after engagement the better.
  2. Second interview and inquiry with priest or deacon.
    1. Present Baptism Certificates
    2. Date of wedding should not be set until freedom to marry is acknowledged
    3. Dispensations and permissions, as necessary
    4. Take the FOCCUS Inventory
    5. Arrange future meetings with priest and/or sponsor couple for review of FOCCUS
  3. Register for Marriage Preparation Day
    Family Life Office, 903 534-1977 ext. 165
    Or download Registration Form (English)Registration Form (Spanish)
  4. Attend Natural Family Planning Awareness Session.
  5. Meet with priest or deacon about wedding liturgy, sacrament, and spiritual preparation. The sacrament of Reconciliation is recommended.
  6. Select readings for the wedding liturgy. (From priest or Together For Life by Champion)
  7. Obtain Marriage License at least 1 month before the wedding date.
  8. Rehearsal
  9. Get to the Church on time!

 English - REGISTRATION FORM and information on Marriage Preparation Day.

 Spanish - REGISTRATION FORMand information on Marriage Preparation Day.

For ALL couples preparing for marriage

. . . Because your Church celebrates your love
And the most important decision of your life!


Marriage Preparation Days

Saturday, November 8 (Spanish)
Our Lady of Guadalupe Church, Tyler

For More Info: Deacon Jerry & Mary Besze

Family Life Office
903-534-1077 Ext 165, 166


 Diocesan Marriage Preparation WEEKEND

November 7-9, 2014
Wellspring Spirituality Center
16828 FM 2964 (Rhones-Quarter Rd.)
Whitehouse, Texas
*Space is limited. Call now!

Family Life Office
903 534 1077 Ext 165

Living the Sacrament


A one-day preparation and enrichment workshop designed for couples who wish to have their marriage validated in the Church. Workshop is held at the Catholic Chancery on the Loop. $25 per couple to cover lunch and materials. (Date To Be Announced)


For more information,

Marriage Resources



  • Marriage Encounter
    Worldwide Marriage Encounter’s mission is to proclaim the value of Marriage and Holy Orders in the Church and in the world. It is the largest pro-marriage movement in the world, offering a weekend for couples who want to make their good marriage even better. The weekend provides couples with a Catholic experience, facilitated by three team couples and a priest, but individuals of all faiths are welcome. The emphasis is on communication and the tools husbands and wives need to support them in living God’s desire for marriage. To learn more about this unique approach to revitalizing the sacrament of marriage, please join us for an upcoming weekend. 
  • Married Love and the Gift of Life
    (United States Conference of Catholic Bishop, 2006 )

  • For Your Marriage
    (United States Conference of Catholic Bishops on Marriage & Family )

  • Beginning Experience
    …for those who have experienced loss of a spouse through divorce or death, or loss of a parent by separation or death.
  • Retrouvaille
    …a program for couples struggling in their marriage; a help for couples to rediscover, heal, and renew their relationship.
  • “Do not conform yourselves to this age but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that you may discern what is the will of God.” Don’t let the world’s way tear your marriage apart. Plan to enrich your marriage by attending the next Worldwide Marriage Encounter Weekend on November 7-9, 2014. Dates fill fast. To apply visit our website at: . For more information e-mail or call 469-444-0904. Para mas informacion de Encuentro Matrimonial en Espanol, escriba a o visite

Marriage Tribunal


If you have questions about the ANNULMENT process in the Catholic Church, contact the Diocesan Marriage Tribunal office. .

Natural Family Planning


Natural Family Planning "A Gift of Life, a Gift of Love"

What is Natural Family Planning?

Natural Family Planning (NFP) refers to methods of monitoring a woman's natural biological signs of fertility to identify days of fertility and infertility either to achieve pregnancy or to avoid pregnancy. An awareness and basic understanding of NFP is vital to cooperating with God's plan for marriage.

What does the Church teach about Natural Family Planning?

Pope John Paul II, quoting Humanae Vitae, states: "If there are reasonable grounds for spacing births, arising from physical or psychological conditions of husband or wife, or from external circumstances, the Church teaches that married people may take advantage of the natural cycles imminent in the reproductive system and use their marriage at precisely those times that they are infertile, and in this way control birth without offending moral principles."

How does Natural Family Planning affect marriage?

Natural Family Planning respects the dignity and well-being of the person, promotes openness to life, and recognizes the value of children. The methods are safe, reliable, and healthy. Couples using NFP have experienced closer communication and intimacy and have become more aware of their God-given power to participate in creating new life through their love.

                                                                  NFP Contacts

English:                             Kaylene Mongeau, RN

                                          TYLER area

                                          Stephen & MaryBeth Burns, RN

                                          PARIS area

                                          Jerry & Daya Stavinoha



                                          LONGVIEW area

                                         Patty Greer,RN
                                         903 291 8815(h)
                                         903 261 3611(c)


Spanish & English:        Daniel & Natalie Herrera



                                          TYLER area

                                           Adam & Jodi Todd






Articles and Quotes on Marriage and the Family


Pope John Paul II, Ad Limina message on Family Life.

"Family, become what you are…the family has the mission to become more and more of what it is…that is to say, a community of life and love in an effort that will find fulfillment, as will everything created and redeemed in the kingdom of God." (Familaris Consortio, 17)

Follow the Way of Love, a Pastoral Message of the U.S. Bishops to Families

Familiaris Consortio,(On the Family), Pope John Paul II

Humanae Vitae, (On the Regulation of Birth) Pope Paul VI



Diocesan Marriage Preparation Day



                                  April 26, 2014 (English)
                                  Sacred Heart Church


                                  May 17, 2014

                                  August 9. 2014

                                  November 8, 2014


Time:                         8:00 a.m. - 5:00 p.m

Locations:                 Catholic Chancery    (English)     

                                  1015 ESE Loop 323

                                  Tyler TX 75701


                                  Our Lady of Guadalupe Parish    (Spanish)

                                  922 Old Omen Rd.

                                  Tyler TX 75701

To register call Family Life Office at 903-534-1077 Ext. 165


Marriage Preparation WEEKEND

November 7, 8, 9
6:30 Friday thru Sunday noon
Wellsprings Spirituality Center
Register with Family Life Office